When you have a child or loved one who enters rehab, you eventually have to tell those closest to you about his or her addiction. This can create personal stress for you, which is understandable. In fact, many people in this situation report feeling emotions such as: \tEmbarrassment \tResentment that they have to be the one to reveal the \u201cfamily secret.\u201d \tConcern that their family member will not stick with recovery and will relapse after the rehab is over. \tConcern that disclosing this information could lead to loss of your friend\u2019s support. \tWorry that your loved one will be angry when they find out you disclosed their addiction How to Tell Your Family Your Son, Daughter or Spouse Is an Addict Even though it can be emotional to tell someone about your family member\u2019s addiction, not all emotions related to disclosure are negative. It\u2019s also common to feel great relief and joy in being free from the burden of keeping the addiction from people in your life. It even opens the door for others to talk with you about their own \u201cfamily secrets,\u201d which can mean incredible support for every person involved. You might be reassured to learn that others have gone through the exact same struggle you\u2019re experiencing. If you\u2019re considering disclosing a child or parent\u2019s addiction, try some of these tips: \tDo it at the appropriate time. Set aside plenty of time to talk in a private area where you can all feel comfortable. Don\u2019t disclose it at a party, holiday gathering or when the other person cannot talk. \tBe prepared to answer questions. Your relatives and friends will want to ask you questions about what\u2019s happening. Although you can\u2019t expect to have a reply for everything, try to anticipate some of the inquiries you might get. \tExpect that you might get more emotional than you anticipated. Disclosing your loved one\u2019s addiction can be full of anxiety, but this anxiety may come out in ways you can\u2019t predict. Some people start to get sad, while others may become angry. Remember that there is no wrong reaction. \tDon\u2019t be defensive if your family or friends say something inappropriate or prejudiced. Remember that this is a difficult time for them, too. However, there\u2019s no reason to listen to anything hateful about your son, daughter or parent who is in rehab. \tAccept support if it\u2019s offered to you. Don\u2019t pretend that you aren\u2019t hurting. You need help, too. If the people you talk to offer their support, take them up on those offers. If you want to know more about how to tell your family that your son or loved one is an addict, you can work with your relative\u2019s rehab center for guidance. At The Ranch PA, we can provide you with additional resources and ways to ease the disclosure for you and those who are hearing about rehab for the first time. Contact us today!