It can be devastating to watch a loved one struggle with addiction. It\u2019s painful, personal, and brings feelings of helplessness, anger, fear, and hurt. You want to do everything in your power to help them get well. But when it comes to addiction, there\u2019s a fine line between helping and enabling your loved one. Friends, family members, and loved ones need to learn how to support not enable an addicted loved one. It can be a challenge. Fortunately, The Ranch PA has deep experience in this area and can provide the necessary family therapy and information. Why You Can\u2019t \u2018Love\u2019 an Addict Into Sobriety Though your intentions are in the right place, some of the ways you may think you\u2019re helping your loved one could be keeping them stuck in their addiction. Many of us try to \u201clove\u201d the addict well. We think if we can just give them what they ask for and prove our love for them, they\u2019ll stop abusing drugs or alcohol. We think we\u2019re helping them by giving them money, paying their bills, giving them a place to live, helping them get out of various \u201cjams\u201d and other well-intentioned efforts. The truth is, if you could \u201clove\u201d your loved one well, they\u2019d be well.\u00a0 A tough reality to accept is that all of the energy you\u2019re putting into trying to protect them and \u201cloving them sober,\u201d could be doing more harm than good. Often, it\u2019s not until addicts feel the repercussions of their behaviors and understand how they\u2019re impacting their loved ones that they are motivated to get well. Think about it. If someone is always around to clean up your messes, why would you be motivated to change? Studies have shown that people are usually motivated to stop abusing substances when the negatives of their addiction outweigh the positives. Healthy Ways to Support Not Enable an Addicted Loved One Though it might be difficult, there\u2019s something to be said for \u201ctough love.\u201d When you hold your loved one accountable, you\u2019re helping them. Some ways to set healthy boundaries include: \tDon\u2019t Make Excuses: If your loved one misses work, school, or personal obligations, don\u2019t make excuses for them. They need to address the questions and consequences that result from these absences. If they don\u2019t feel the unpleasant outcomes that result from their drug or alcohol use, why would they want to stop their behavior? \tSet Boundaries: Set firm, healthy boundaries, and maintain them. Decide for yourself which of your loved one\u2019s behaviors are unacceptable. It\u2019s useful to write these down and have your loved one read and sign the document (when they are sober). Don\u2019t waiver in your boundaries. If you go back on the rules you\u2019ve set, it will take longer to gain any ground you\u2019ve made. \tHelp Yourself: Addiction is a disease of the family. Everyone must recover in their way. A big part of this is getting help and support for yourself. Seek out support groups created for loved ones of addicted individuals. You may also consider seeing a mental health counselor. Additionally, don\u2019t let self-care practices fall by the wayside. Exercise, yoga, proper nutrition, activities, and hobbies can do wonders for your mental and physical health. \tBe Vocal: Holding healthy boundaries doesn\u2019t mean that you shouldn\u2019t empathize. Let them know you love them and want to help them get better. Let them know the boundaries you hold are because of your love for them. If they\u2019re actively trying to get sober, some of the ways you can show your support are by driving them to treatment, participating in treatment as requested by their clinicians, visiting them, and working with their treatment team. How The Ranch PA Can Help At The Ranch PA, we realize it can be challenging to support not enable an addicted loved one. For this reason, we offer our clients a comprehensive family therapy program. Here individuals can confront their issues, work through them, and find support. Whether it is couples or spouses, parents to children, children to parents, or siblings, family therapy teaches the technique to support not enable an addicted loved one. Some other treatment programs we offer include: \t12 Step and Non-12 Step Programs \tPain Management \tAftercare \tGender-Specific Rehab for Men and Women These programs, coupled with our numerous therapeutic options, give clients their best chance at a lasting recovery. They can also provide friends, family, and loved ones with the tool necessary to help. To find out more about our programs at The Ranch PA call .