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Will My Addicted Loved One Ever Change?  

It’s difficult loving someone with an addiction, especially once you’ve accepted that you have no control over their behaviors. You may wonder, ‘Will my addicted loved one ever change?’ You can bargain with them to stop using drugs or alcohol, even coerce them into treatment. Until they’re motivated to get better, they’ll likely continue destructive behaviors. Sometimes people can find this motivation once they’re in treatment. But ideally, some sort of intrinsic motivation exists before entering drug rehab. While there’s no way to predict when or if an individual will attempt to overcome addiction, for several decades now, mental health professionals have been using an integrative behavior change theory that helps them gauge a client’s readiness for recovery.

Will My Addicted Loved One Ever Change?

The Transtheoretical Model (TTM) of behavior change is frequently used by therapists and other behavioral health professionals to assess where an individual is in their awareness of unhealthy behaviors and their willingness to change those behaviors. This helps them determine what type of therapeutic approach to use with the client. The Transtheoretical Model was developed by psychologists and researchers in the late 1970s with substance abuse in mind. Still, TTM applies to many behaviors such as sexual addiction, eating disorders, gambling, smoking, staying in an abusive relationship, and others. According to TTM, people move through a series of stages when modifying behavior; change such as quitting drinking, smoking, or overeating does not happen as a single event in time.

The First Stages of the Transtheoretical Model

Precontemplation (Not ready): People in the precontemplation stage don’t plan to take action in the foreseeable future. They likely haven’t faced any hard consequences of their behaviors. They are unaware of or ambivalent about how their behaviors impact themselves and others. In the precontemplation stage, an individual’s alcohol or drug use has reached a concerning level. Loved ones, coworkers, and others have likely noticed their substance misuse and may have confronted them about it. The individual may not be experiencing significant financial, legal, relationship, or social problems, especially if their loved ones are enabling them and preventing them from enduring the consequences of their actions. They may stay stuck in the precontemplation stage until they feel more of the negative aftermath of their drug or alcohol use. Contemplation (Getting Ready): Contemplation is the stage where people are considering whether to make changes in their lives and behavior. Often people stay in this stage for long periods, weighing the costs and benefits of changing. An individual in the contemplation stage is aware that their drug or alcohol abuse is a problem, but aren’t ready to get serious about sobriety yet. The pressure to get help may be building from outside of themselves – loved ones, employers, and others – but their intrinsic motivation for recovery is not strong enough to prompt them to take any real action. Preparation (Ready): In this stage, people see their behaviors as problematic and intend to take action. They understand that the pros of sobriety outweigh the costs of their continued addiction. They’re usually more committed, decisive, and confident and have taken some positive actions that foster their recovery. During this stage, building confidence is key, and these people tend to be particularly receptive to coaching and support that help them move forward in their recovery.

The Active Stages

Action (Active change): People in the action stage are making specific, overt modifications in their lifestyle. Because the action is observable, the overall process of behavior change is often misinterpreted to only be synonymous with observable action. However, action is just one of the five stages of change. For change to take place and be maintained over time, a person must pass through all five stages of change. The action stage is where an individual is actively getting help for their addiction and wholly invested in their sobriety. They’re addressing triggers and the reasons why they’ve abused substances. They’re learning healthy coping skills, repairing relationships, and making changes in their lives that support long-term sobriety. Maintenance (Sustaining change): This is the stage where people have made distinct, discernible changes in their lifestyles and are working to prevent a return to unhealthy behaviors. They don’t need to apply change processes as frequently as those in the action stage do to sustain these changes. They become increasingly more confident in their behavior changes and their ability to handle new challenges. However, it is important to note you maintain recovery through action. It is a lifelong process. In the maintenance stage, an individual is less tempted by triggers, and relapse is less of a concern than in previous stages. They’re effectively managing any underlying issues like mental health disorders and trauma. Healthy coping skills and self-care come more naturally and are ingrained components of their lifestyle.

Finding Treatment at The Ranch PA

While people may progress through the Stages of Change linearly, a nonlinear progression is common. Sometimes people recycle through the stages or regress to earlier stages from later ones. People may move through one stage quickly and stay in another stage for a much longer period. Ideally, people enter drug and alcohol rehab in the preparation stage and leave in the action stage. For a successful recovery journey, clients must work on sobriety once they leave treatment. Clients do this by attending therapy, practicing healthy self-care, and participating in sober support groups. As a loved one of an addicted individual, remind yourself you can’t control the progression through the stages of change. You can support and encourage your loved one. You hold healthy, loving boundaries, but their motivation to recover will ultimately need to come from within. The Ranch PA understands the anxiety of wondering, ‘Will my addicted loved one ever change?’ When they are ready to get treatment, we’ll be here to help. With a team of compassionate and experienced experts, we offer treatment programs such as:

Because our clients’ recovery is our top priority, we offer a wide variety of therapies. This allows The Ranch PA to treat all sorts of addiction with traditional and alternative treatments. Contact us today at 717.969.9126 to learn more and find out what of our services will help you or your loved one.

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